Single Journey into Grace

07/23/2007   |   community, growth    |       |    6 Comments

Something just hit me.  I rarely see books published about the raw journey of waiting on your soul mate.  One would think that this would be the hottest topic in Christian circles especially since we are known for waiting… and waiting… and waiting for God’s Hot Pick for us.  Hmm… Could it be that no one is writing about this topic offering encouragement because no one is waiting?  Are Christian singles running out of patience for the delivery of God’s Knight or “Knightess” in shining armor?  Too often I hear the horror stories of my sisters and brothers not enduring and waiting on God’s best for their lives.  It’s hard, I’ve been there and experienced that but trust me, it’s harder when we don’t wait…

How should our Christ-filled singles endure and wait?  What if our dreams never come true?  I am reminded by Paul’s encouraging words – “You then, my child, be strengthened by the GRACE that is in Christ Jesus, and what you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses entrust to faithful men who will be able to teach others also (2 Tim 2:1).”  Simple verse but yet dripping with so much truth.  I remember my life as a single Christian man.  Seizing every opportunity on my own to discover who was God’s queen for me, I stumbled into some mess, some lust and something I thought was God but yet was a trap.  I didn’t rely on the grace of God… Better yet, I didn’t know what grace really meant.  I thought I deserved “my best” and didn’t understand what God’s best looked like.  Also, I didn’t realize that I wasn’t entitled to a mate.  I didn’t understand that if it came, it was because of God’s grace… You see, when we think we deserve something, we tend to step outside of God’s timing, plan and best in order to please ourselves.  Looking back on those years, I didn’t get my queen until I stopped pursuing my will and learned to rest in God’s will and grace.  Let me flesh it out real quick – don’t live life as if you deserve a life-long companion… live life recognizing that whatever God’s grace has to give you is enough.

This passage also reminds me the power and responsibility of spreading truth.  If you are experiencing victory in your single pursuit of being enthralled by God’s grace then share your story with someone else.  The single years can be some of the loneliest times of your life if you aren’t surrounding yourself with truth (the truth about God’s love for you and the truth about yourself).  Huddle with like-minded folks who aspire after the heart of God and share your life with them… When I was in college, my saving grace wasn’t college but it was the likeminded community that God brought around me.  I wouldn’t have made it without them… Keep enduring and waiting, God’s grace is real!  Praying for you…

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