Life After Adultery (Pt. 2)

12/22/2007   |   family living, growth, masculinity    |       |    0 Comment

Without trying to short-change the seemingly eternal rebuilding process in the marriage, I believe forgiveness has to eventually be introduced and woven into the hearts of the couple if there is any hope for this marriage.  After the hurt and anger surface, there has to be a definitive choice made.  This decision can either close the tormenting cycle of hurt, anger and mental reminders with forgiveness or embrace the outcome of becoming a victim to it.

Despite my personal passion for moving couples toward forgiveness, the Bible allows for the divorce of a spouse who commits adultery (Deuteronomy 24:1-4; Matthew 19:9).  However, God’s heart for marriage is that forgiveness would be chosen over divorce since God detests divorce (Malachi 2:16).  Nevertheless, the Christian spouse who has been victimized by the wounds of adultery often lives between knowledge and emotion.  On one hand they may know what the Scriptures teach about adultery and divorce.  On the other hand, they may sense an emotional impossibility to function in the midst of the constant reminders and feelings.