Lies We Believe – Part 1

05/06/2009   |   Uncategorized    |       |    2 Comments

Since Genesis 3, Satan has been trying to get all of humanity to listen, dwell, believe and act on his lies.  In order to expose his lies, I’ve preached a message identifying key lies in each category.  In an attempt to unpack about twenty one lies, I only mentioned a few Scriptures verses explaining them.

In an attempt to solidify our counter-attack against the lies we tend to believe, I’ve listed several passages that led me to the truth shared in this message.  I hope it helps you.


1) God always holds back the good stuff from me – Satan tends to twist the truth in order to misrepresent God to us so that we believe lies and then act on them (Genesis 3:1-13; John 8:44; 2 Corinthians 4:4)

2) If God really loved me I would have what I need – Because we don’t get what we want, we lean towards believing that God doesn’t want the best for us.  Satan attempted to convince Eve that God was holding back something that she needed (Genesis 3:4-6; 2 Corinthians 2:2).  However, God knows what we need before we ask him (Matthew 6:8).  When we think of our salvation we know that God predestined and called us to himself before we were brought into existence (Romans 8:28-30).

3)  God doesn’t know all that I desire – Because we don’t have what we want we buy into the lie that God could care less about our desires.  However, God knows our evil desires and our desires that come from Him (Psalm 139: 23, 24; Psalm 37:3; Psalm 145:19).

4)  God is undependable like all other men in my life – Somehow we have allowed relational scars of past relationships with men (ie., fathers) to skew our perception of God (Deuteronomy 1:30, 31; 32:6; Psalm 103:13).  How do we free ourselves from these lies?  Getting to know Jesus is key (Hebrews 1:3), the Faithful One (Deuteronomy 32:4).

5)  I can gain a deeper relationship with God without reading His Word – We are deceived to think that we can know a “knowable” God without reading His Word.  We see this throughout our post-Christian world as “Christ followers” declare to be “Christians” but know nothing about the God of the Bible (Colossians 1:9; 1 Timothy 2:3; 2 Timothy 3:15, 16).


1)  I am a growing Christian even though I rarely read my Bible – When God’s Word becomes optional in the life of a Christian they become stagnant, dry and cold.  Not reading Scripture has led to a crisis of biblical illiteracy and luke-warm Christianity that is ignorant of Christ (John 5:39, 40; Acts 18:28).  When we don’t have a true knowledge of Christ, we add no value to the kingdom of God (Revelations 3:16).

2)  It’s ok if I live my life without depending on Jesus for everything – When we seek to live a life partially depending on Jesus for certain things and ourselves for the “rest” we are not allowing Jesus to be Lord of our lives (Genesis 15:6; Proverbs 3:5, 6; Romans 10:9).

3)  God doesn’t want me to sacrifice what pleases me – We have bought into the idol of comfort and have worked hard to put ourselves in a position to never sacrifice our own comfort for the kingdom (1 John 3:17).  We have Christ’s life of sacrifice as a model for sacrifice (Luke 14:27; John 3:16; John 13).

4)  If what I was doing was wrong God wouldn’t be blessing me (secret sins) – We oftentimes believe the lie that there will be no consequences for our sins.  We believe that God’s silence and blessing is our approval to continue in sin.  But God is compassionate and gracious, desiring us to repent (Psalm 103:8, 10; Romans 2:4; Acts 13:18).


1)  God will not judge my sin – This lie deceives us into believing that Jesus will not judge sin; however, he will (Psalm 7:11; Psalm 37:28; Colossians 3:6).  God’s heart is for people to repent of sin and turn to him by faith (Acts 17:30).

2)  My sins aren’t really that bad compared to other people – We believe this lie by becoming self-righteous, using other people as our gauge for sin instead of the holiness of God (Isaiah 5:21).  Because we don’t hold dear to the righteousness of God, we create our own righteousness (Romans 10:3).  How dare we look at someone else’s sin when we have our own sin to repent of (Matthew 7:1-5).

3)  God will never forgive me for something I’ve done that no one knows – Our sin lies to us and attempts to convince us that God hasn’t forgiven us (i.e., abortion, poor decisions, etc).  What pop psychology advocates is that a person needs to forgive themselves in order to be set free from condemnation.  However, Scripture teaches that freedom is only in accepting Christ’s forgiveness (Romans 8:1; Ephesians 1:6; Colossians 2:13-15).

4)  I will never be able to get free from this sin controlling me – We believe the lie that we will always be in bondage to sin.  When Christ died he freed us from the power of sin (Romans 6:1-14).


1)  My spouse is designed to meet all of my needs – Because we believe this lie, we make our spouses all  sufficient.  God didn’t create Adam and Eve not to need God.  He made Adam to lead, govern and have dominion over the earth.  He created Eve to help Adam.  If all of our needs in marriage could be met through our spouse it would be in opposition to Exodus 20:3.  What we gain satisfaction from, we tend to worship (Jeremiah 2:13).  All our needs are met by God (Psalm 103).

2)  I have to have a wife or husband in order to be happy – When we look at the first marriage in Genesis we see that God didn’t provide Eve to make Adam happy.  God provided Eve to help Adam accomplish the purposes and plans of God (Genesis 2).  Idolatry is worshiping what we find pleasure in outside of God.

3)  It’s ok for us to enjoy porn together – It goes without saying that pornography is evil and demonic.  It defiles the marriage bed of the presence and glory of God.  The marriage bed is honorable and undefiled designed for one husband and one wife who are married ( Hebrews 13:4).  Couples who have porn videos playing while having sexual intercourse are sinning against God (1 Corinthians 6:18).


1)  Being a keeper of the home is not a woman’s most important contribution to her family – Feminism is seeking to take the woman’s heart away from her home and onto something else that is opposed to God’s desire for her.  Eve’s contribution was that she was Adam’s helper (Genesis 2).  Based on her relational design being the mother of all living she nurtured, managed, and supported her husband.  However, she circumvented that role when she took the initiative in the family and engaged in a discussion with Satan (Genesis 3).  In our modern context, a man is called to provide for his family and the wife is called to nurture and manage the home.  This doesn’t mean that a women has to stay home but that her heart is committed to her home (Proverbs 31).

2)  I never have to temporarily sacrifice my dreams for the sake of my husband and family – Feminism preaches independence, ambition and dreams at the expense of her family and husband.  The problem is that many Christian women are buying into their message.  A wife could be called or asked to temporarily sacrifice to please her husband (1 Corinthians 7:33).  When a women believes this lie, she selfishly thinks about herself only, possibly pursuing her dreams without helping her husband by keeping and managing the home (Ephesians 5; Titus 2:3-5).  This pressure on the household could cause the husband to become overly domestic (Genesis 2:15; Ephesians 5:23-33).

3)  Submission to my husband is about inferiority – Submission is willfully surrenduring yourself under your husband’s leadership out of obedience to God (Ephesians 5:22).  Submission is about safety and protection.  What is currently taking place in homes across America is the sad reality of women who are leading their husbands (Genesis 3).  Women are taking all the initiative, making all the decisions and manipulating their husbands to get their way.  Instead of men taking the initiative and possibly making a decision for the sake of their families, men are passively responding to their wives initiative.  However, men are responsible for the direction of the family (Genesis 3:8; Ephesians 5; 1 Peter 3).  If a man is allowing his wife to lead him he needs to repent.

4)  Men can’t be trusted – Women who have been hurt by jacked up men sometimes see men in general as non-trustworthy (Job 2:9).  Like Job’s wife sometimes our emotional pain can diminish our faith in God.  Because God is our Father, sometimes our earthly fathers don’t represent the trustworthy headship of God (1 Thessalonians 2:11, 12).  If you are a women who is struggling with this lie, seek counseling and ask God to help you allow yourself to be protected by trustworthy men.

Here’s the awesome news – Jesus died a death that we should have so that we wouldn’t have to act on the lies of our enemy.

I pray that this has been a blessing to you as you depend on the truth of Jesus Christ.